So after a long term relationship one can find themselves being single again. One gets use to always having someone around and even adapts their life around the partners.
Suddenly the realisation of one deciding on what platform to use to find a partner after healing has become more and more scary. There are now dating websites where men and women no longer date like the old days. We can certainly have virtual relationships and don’t even have to meet.
Many people might shake their heads and shrug their shoulders feeling superior that "something like that" would never happen to them - when in reality it already has, especially if they are trying to find love on a dating site.
For the vulnerable and lonely, scammers offer the irresistible hope and belief that they have found their true love and soul mate - without a question or a doubt. They are being offered the promise of life, love and riches beyond their dreams.
In most cases, the scammers log into chat rooms and on Christian dating sites posing as handsome and beautiful people. They set up fake and phony profiles using pictures from modeling sites from all over the net, littered with false information that can range from something as simple as an appealing (but false) weight, to something as diverse and personal. They spend hours, days, weeks and sometimes months, chatting up and luring their naive targets with Internet intimacy.
As far as the victim is concerned, they believe what they are experiencing is the real thing - that the picture of the person they chat with is real. The person they are chatting with, while revealing their deepest desires, really does care about them. The person they are chatting with loves them.
So once a "relationship" has been established, it doesn't always seem odd that their cyber soul mate may need a few rands. The innocent cyber partner becomes a cash cow for the scammer.
It is therefore important to go back to the old methods of dating. Face to face communication counts a lot in order for one to get a genuine sense of what the partners intentions are.
Times have changed I have a friend who found a husband on the net. They have been married for many years and staying in New Orleans. There's no formula for love, it merely depends on the individual.
ReplyDeleteIt's not that you don't know who you are when you get a date online. People are finding different ways to meet, this is what our world is turning to so we have to adapt. Not everything is a scam, we can't live our lives in fear. I went out for drinks with someone I met in a chatroom. I was not looking for a relationship, it was merely a social platform. People chat online all the time. Don't be so skeptical. People lie even when you see them face to face, so I don't think it makes a difference.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true...they say "Pull yourself,towards yourself"...
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